A Royal Visit.

¬†Prince William and Catherine have now arrived here in Canada for a 9 day trip( a jaunt to The Colonies, ha ha ha). It’s all over the news and thousands of people lined up to see them.They will be at the festivities tomorrow for Canada Day at Parliament Hill in Ottawa.My friend who lives in Ottawa even said he got to shake William’s hand as well as PM Harper’s! My hubby likes to insult them and make fun of me because I like them(“Not interested!” “Not news!” “Couldn’t care less!” he snorts; the exact same way *I* feel about loser sports!!) making snarky remarks, but what do you expect though, considering where he comes from; he needs to get some culture anyway! ūüôā

A Tragedy Of Two Families.

¬†It’s all over the news the latest policeman killed in the line of duty. This time he was dragged and crushed by a runaway van as the driver sped off after being pulled over. The driver was only 15 and had taken his dad’s van for a “joyride” with his friends and when the officer pulled him over I assume what happened is he panicked and got scared and drove off, dragging the cop with him(then the van flipped over crushing him beneath it) but likely not intending on killing him; a stupid youthful mistake gone wrong, that has now shattered 2 families and destroyed 2 lives.This is a perfect example of how 1 event, 1 wrong choice, can affect the rest of your life and the lives of others.;how in one instant everything can change.

The media report is going on and on about this, as they always do when a police officer is killed, more so than if it was a civilian, making me wonder if they value the cop’s lives more than the “common” person’s.It is a tragedy though and he leaves behind a wife and 2 young kids. The other tragedy, however, that is being overlooked is the 15 year old and his family. Imagine what it’s like for his parents as well? He is in critical condition with head and spinal cord injuries, may be paralyzed and/or brain damaged if he even survives and then faces a first degree murder charge on top of that,assuming he ever wakes up, that is. His life is destroyed as well and that of his family as well as the police officer’s family. There are 2 hurting families here, although the one is being overlooked. I would think the guilt that he killed someone would be enough to destroy him,having to live with that knowledge the rest of his life, but he also faces jail time.All this for one stupid mistake that will follow him and that he will pay for, for the rest of his life. I pray it doesn’t define and destroy him the rest of his life;that he can learn and grow from this tragedy and make better choices in the future; that he can move past this and make something with his life, changing his ways and not have this one tragic event dictate the rest of his life.He’s only 15.Spending years in jail with hard-core inmates will only make him worse when he gets out.Being the most hated and vilified person right ¬†won’t help toward rehabilitation,either.Now 2 families will be forever changed and shattered and we must pray for everyone(esp. the ones that no one else will pray for;the ones that need it the most) and consider ALL that are hurting; 2 families torn apart,suffering and grieving.People are upset by this, and rightly so, but we must remember there are 2 victims and 2 hurting families that need compassion and prayer and I don’t think a stupid mistake at age 15 should condemn this kid for the rest of his life.

Keep To The Right!

¬†I was surprised to read in the paper the other day complaints about people being rude, with an update on social etiquette to find out that it is understood that when walking on the sidewalk or standing on an escalator you are always to walk/stand on the right hand side. I am 44 years old and I never knew that; I have always just stood or walked wherever. I never knew there was any “rule” on this, or that people are to exit a bus or elevator before people go on. With my Asperger’s I am unaware of such things that others just seem to automatically know and I always wondered how,where,and when they learn things like this, or is it just something everyone but me knows? It probably also doesn’t help that my mom was never around to guide and teach me things and I was for the most part left to my own devices. I basically had to try and figure things out on my own and for myself, with no guidance.

I always commit these “social gaffes” and embarrass myself in public and people wrongly think I’m rude when in actual fact I just don’t know. I can’t read body language or pick up on social cues.I can’t “read in-between the lines” ,know the rules” or “unwritten” rules. I never know what to say to people,and what questions or topics are appropriate or not. I almost always end up offending people and they take things the wrong way, not the way I intended. I end up embarrassed, humiliated, hurt, wounded and scolded like a naughty child.I just retreat more and more into isolation. I WANT to fit in and be liked and accepted and to make friends, I just don’t know how. I also have trouble with money so when I buy things I fumble with the change and look really dumb not being able to correctly count it(thank God for credit cards!).I have trouble figuring out if there’s a line-up and if there is where it begins and where it ends. I struggle to find which end of the check-out counter at a store to go to.I have no idea how to do banking or taxes. ATM’s and other automated things are out of the question;they are way too confusing for me, and I’ll never be able to drive,either(I even have trouble finding my way around on a bus and get lost!).What is normal every day life for others is still a mystery and a struggle for me. What they take for granted I am clueless.It’s like they all know this secret that I don’t know, like about keeping to the right. I honestly had no idea.I have a very difficult time navigating thru life.I come across as rude, stuck-up, pushy, nosey, etc. not meaning to but I can’t relate to people and never know how to act, what to say, what to do, etc. I am always being misunderstood and can’t function like other people do. It literally is that everyone is going in one direction and I’m always going the opposite way. They keep to the right and I am always on the left.Almost like culture shock, only in your own country.Life is very challenging for me and I get swallowed up by it.

Back To Work, You Greedy S.O.B’s!

¬†Canada Post union has been legislated back to work by the gov’t(finally! What took them so long?) after a 26 day strike and the mail is set to resume being delivered today. The funny thing is the greedy union complains the entire time yet walked OUT of negotiation talks and now it goes to arbitration the 2 offers available are even LOWER than the original offer from Canada Post so they’ll end up with even LESS but it serves them right for refusing to settle, for keeping the strike going and holding the public hostage and for being greedy and not satisfied and wanting more. Now they get even less AND are ordered back to work, so all I can say is “Ha ha ha!” and it serves them right! They did it to themselves and only have themselves to blame! They’ve had MORE than enough time to reach a settlement.Enough is enough!

The Socialist NDP party kept stalling the back-to-work legislation for days but it still passed(with a majority gov’t) then the senate approved it and it got royal assent…and now they have to get back to work. I just wonder what took them so long; when Air Canada went on strike the gov’t ordered them back in 2 days!

Weiner Is Such A Dick!!

¬†Former US congressman Anthony Weiner is such a dick! He was caught sending crude Twitter pics to women incl. porno whores. He is obviously a pervert and to make it worse is the fact that he’s married and his wife is expecting their first child! I feel badly for her, no doubt hurt, humiliated and embarrassed. I can only imagine how strained their marriage must be now.At first he lied and denied sending the crude photos as well and said someone had “hacked” his account and then admitted to it, yet still refused to resign despite pleas for it but eventually gave in to public pressure and resigned, as he should have. What IS it with these high profile guys though? How stupid IS he to risk his career, his marriage and his reputation by sending porno pics? Why would anyone be so dumb to DO something like that,anyway? He’s such a dick!

So Convincing!!

¬†My son is taking Business Administration at university(just finished his 3rd year) and he will do well in the world of finance not only due to his high grades and being a member of the Honour Society but also because I am convinced he can talk anyone into anything! Case in point: I told him we pay over 100$ a month for our TV satellite service so he phones(unbeknownst to us) our satellite provider and tells them to the effect of “stop ripping off ‘old’ people!” and ¬†somehow convinced them to take 20$ a month off our bill for the next year, saving us 240$! He said where he lives in the big city he only pays 45$ a month for his HD cable TV service! He will do well in his chosen profession later, being able to talk people into why they need to hire him, or work for his company, or do business with him, etc.

As well, I heard on the radio an ad for someone doing the same business at an event that our family has and I got mad thinking, “You’re cutting into our business!” and as it turned out it was US; we’re booked for it so I was mad at ourselves! The redneck losers next door were also smoking up over the w/e and it reeked so bad we had to even close our windows and the 8 YR old said, “They probably picked it out of their garden!” My mom snickered as well that I’m a “Communist” because I always make the kids share everything and take turns; she doesn’t believe in sharing and is always trying to discourage it and sabotages my teaching the kids; I guess she wants them to end up selfish like her….

Here We Go Again!!

¬†Here we go again, trouble with our pool(what else is new?)No matter what I do, despite daily cleaning and maintenance(scrubbing with the broom thing on the long pole and scooping with the net on the pole) and cleaning and chemicals and vacuuming several times a week the water is STILL cloudy and greenish(not as bad as the photo here but you get the idea.) We just can’t get rid of the algae and can’t get the water blue, sparkling, clean and clear no matter what. It’s really frustrating as I try so HARD and put in clarifiers, flocking agents, algaecide, “shock”, stabilizers,etc. yet we still ¬†can’t keep up with the dirt ,algae and murkiness.The other day when I used the manual vacuum(as opposed to the automatic “robotic” vacuum we usually use) the hose kept coming off the vacuum 5 times AND I still couldn’t vacuum up all the sand from the bottom of the deep end AND the chlorine pucks came loose out of the container and sunk to the bottom of the pool! NOTHING can ever go RIGHT for me!

As well as that we’re still leaking water, the water level goes down every day 1-2 inches and we’re always leaving the hose in to re-fill it and lots of tiles and chunks of concrete have fallen off too but it just costs too much to have it fixed(last time a few years ago we had a few tiles put in it cost 800$!). I also had an idea that maybe the reason it’s so cloudy is the sand in the filter needs to be replaced; that now the filter is just recirculating the same dirty water, so we called the pool guys and ¬†they’ll come sometime and get rid of the old sand(300 or so pounds of it!) and put in the new stuff, costing around 300$.I hope that this will FINALLY make a difference and that we can get rid of the algae and the fogginess once and for all but I won’t count on it since things have a habit of not working out for me…and no matter WHAT I do we seem to have to just live with cloudy green water.

The Last Discrimination.

¬†Imagine not getting jobs you are qualified for but overlooked due to your appearance. Imagine not being asked to a prom, dances or on dates because of your appearance. Imagine being left out, teased and picked on because of your appearance. Imagine ¬†being limited in life and having fewer choices and opportunities in life due to your appearance. This is daily life for people who are ugly and fat and it is the one last discrimination left that society still sadly seems to find acceptable. It is generally considered unacceptable nowadays to discriminate based on one’s race, gender, religion, or sexual orientation, but it still goes on for those who are fat and ugly. Life is very cruel to the fat and the ugly and we are still marginalized, mocked, looked down on, over-looked, excluded and feel like second-class citizens.

I read recently about a dating site that kicked thousands of members out for being ugly and refusing to allow ugly people to join and ugly people are also often not allowed into hip clubs based on their looks,and are less likely to be chosen for things.What is normal in life for most people is often out of reach for the overweight and unattractive.Fat jokes and ugly jokes and name calling and ridicule are still widely accepted whereas gay jokes or ethnic jokes are not.Fat and ugly people are also blamed for their condition and are more likely to suffer self-esteem issues, depression and be suicidal.Many of us are forced into self-exile and isolation, rarely leaving our homes, preferring to stay hidden.

There was an article in the news the other day about an overweight teen and everyone that sent in letters and comments blamed her for it saying she’s just “lazy” a “slob”, “has no self-respect”, “should take responsibility”, is a “pig”, “disgusting”,etc. and when I added it might be genetic(like it is with me; ALL the women on my mom’s side of the family are fat) they all disagreed and blamed her for being that way, even though, like me, she has also tried and failed at every diet. Sometimes it’s your genes and you can’t fight a losing battle no matter how hard you try. It’s the same being ugly; no one in their right mind would desire,choose, or want to be ugly. It would be heartless to blame a retarded or handicapped person for being that way, for example, but when it comes to fat and ugly people people think nothing of it. This bigotry,bullying, and discrimination has to stop. It drives people to self-loathing, despair and even suicide.I know first-hand how it feels and the long-term damage it causes. Fat and ugly people have feelings too and it’s not right to pick on them, exclude them, shun them, or discriminate against them based on their appearance.We can’t help how we look and like anyone else just want to be accepted, feel valued and loved and want to fit in and make friends.

No Pride.

¬†Toronto mayor Rob Ford is being condemned and criticized and called a “homophobe”(a word they like to use to describe anyone who doesn’t agree with homosexuality) for not going to the gay pride parade even though he’ll be at the cottage next holiday w/e with his family(a tradition they’ve only HAD for the past 30 YRS!!) and they say as mayor he’s “obligated” to go and can’t he at least show up sometime during the 10 days festival,etc. I say good for him! Good for him for putting family first, for not being co-erced by a pushy special-interest group and for standing up for what he believes in. He DOES have the right to his own personal beliefs and opinions and can’t be expected to be everywhere.Besides, you can never please everyone anyway.

Ok, sure, maybe he doesn’t agree with the homosexual lifestyle and that’s his right and his choice and it must be respected. Besides, the parade is nothing but a vulgar crass indecent pornographic display of half-naked men prancing around and making out with one another, complete with chains, collars, etc. outlandish and garish, and a flamboyant in-your-face gay stereotype that even many gays object to and avoid the parade for that very same reason as it makes them all look like a bunch of brash perverts!!(I personally think they should be discreet and I don’t think it’s right for hetero couples to make out in public either; some things should be kept private) Put it this way, it’s not something I’d want to bring my kids to, and it would be just as crude if it were half-naked heteros making out and being crude in public!(but we’ll never see a hetero pride parade!) No wonder he wants to stay away from it! If he didn’t go to the St. Patrick’s Day parade would they say he hates the Irish too, or if he didn’t go to the Santa Claus parade that he was anti-Christmas, or if he skipped the Caribana parade that he hated blacks? No, of course not; it’s just plain stupid! Some people get worked up and offended over every little thing and the thing I noticed is the gays always like to spout off about “tolerance” but it doesn’t seem to work both ways; they expect everyone else to accept and embrace their lifestyle(and blatantly flaunting sex and sin in a parade is not the way to endear people to it) but if someone has another belief they do not tolerate it and brand them a “homophobe!” I say good for him for not going.He has a right to believe what he wants and to choose which events to go to.The Pride parade is NOT everyone’s “cup of tea” and he has the right to not attend and if he doesn’t agree with homosexuality he would feel very uncomfortable there and be a hypocrite if he showed up, which is worse.

Farmed Out To Daycare.

¬†It was in the news lately about an uproar created when a daycare was to close.As for me my thought was “GOOD!!” Now, I have a real issue with daycare, since from age 6 weeks old to 11 years old I was farmed off to daycares and babysitters until I was 11 and then I was just left home alone, what they called a “Latchkey Child.” My mother was never home with me and my dad was gone from when I was 2 so I essentially never got to see or bond with either of my parents. This is a real sore spot for me. I absolutely 100% do NOT agree with daycare in the least; I mean why even HAVE kids if you can’t even be bothered to be home and raise them and just send them off to be raised by strangers? It shocked me when the parents heard the daycare was to close and they were angry and said,”What am I going to do with my child?” Well, dumb-ass, here’s a novel idea; why don’t you stay HOME with them and raise them like you’re supposed to? You had the kid, it’s your responsibility to take care of it, or why even have kids if you’re not spending time with them and hardly ever see them,right? They’re not like pets that you can just leave home alone all day or send off to the kennel when you go away!

The gov’t is going to try and subsidize daycare and have more available I think is a bad idea; it will only encourage lazy parents to ditch their kids even more. It’s esp. dumb as people cry they can’t live on one salary….but the second income almost always goes entirely to pay for daycare, so they’re basically having the mother go out to work solely to pay for strangers to raise their kid! It makes no sense! Stay home and if the kid’s not in daycare you don’t even NEED that second salary, plus the kid has the love and security of an at-home full-time nurturing parent! I suffered greatly emotionally from what I went thru and I would not wish that on any child, and for that very reason I have always been home with my 11 kids.Kids NEED the security ¬†and attachment of their mother as full-time caregiver, esp. during the first 5 formative years.It is critically important. I can’t stress that enough, and daycare sabotages it,weakens the family bond,and negatively harms the child. They will have problems connecting with and trusting people. I personally hope they shut down ALL the daycares and then the moms will have to get their priorities straight and stay home with their kids; they’ll have no choice but to be proper parents and not have their kids raised and indoctrinated by the gov’t or by strangers, and even possibly abused in the process.They will have better emotionally adjusted kids and stronger families and will be better off for it.The family is the building block of society and if it is weak the society will collapse.Broken and destroyed families are society’s problem and begin when parents couldn’t even be bothered to take care of their own kids and pay other people to do their job for them.God has given kids to the PARENTS to raise.Period.