Guest Post.

Icicle Guest post taken from the 12 YR old’s blog:

This is going to be a pretty short post, but when I went to the Garbage and recycling (my least favourite chore in the house) I saw some icicles  pretty close to me, so I walked over to them and picked one up, it was SO cool! it was clear and solid, I showed it to everyone in the family because it’s “cool” but I dropped it…. SO I went outside and got another one that looks pretty close to it. I took A picture because I love it so much, it’s in our freezer now so I can keep it as a “pet” so here is a picture of me holding the icicle in my hand, it’s pretty big maybe the size of a water bottle maybe smaller.

Boys VS Girls.

BoysVSGirls Since I have lots of kids ( 6 girls and 5 boys) people often ask me which is “easier” and which I prefer, boys or girls. It actually depends on the age, or at least with my kids,anyway. As babies the boys are definitely alot easier; they’re calmer, quieter, less fussy, and more easy-going(although our youngest was a fussy baby; he cried alot and was difficult to feed) but the girls cried ALOT(and the oldest girl SCREAMED 24 HRS straight for 2 YRS) and were fussy and whiny. As they got older the boys were more aggressive and broke more things(although our oldest girl was really bad and destructive and defiant and completely trashed a room) and were alot more rough-and-tumble and got hurt more while the girls tended to be more quiet, played quietly, didn’t tear around the house, do reckless things or get hurt as much and weren’t as loud, but as teens the girls were “snootier” and whiny and the boys were more obnoxious and rude but they were ALL mouthy and talked back equally and had attitude. When they were little( babies, toddlers and younger kids) I preferred boys(the girls were so difficult as babies I was only hoping for boys at one point) but as they get older I prefer the girls so I guess in the end it all kind of “balances” out. The one I’m the closest to is a girl(and I’ve always wanted a girl like her and to have that close special mother-daughter relationship) and the 2 that have been the cruelest and said the most hurtful,spiteful, hateful,stinging,meanest things to me have been the oldest boys but the 2 ones I’m least close to are girls so it’s mixed. I guess it all depends more on their personalities; the kind of people they are and how we get along but as babies the boys definitely were alot easier without a doubt.

As well, the 10 YR old accidently said “shit” (“The hippo did a SHIT”) and she doesn’t swear; it just came out and she was horrified and the look on her face when she’d realized what she’d said was priceless; it was hilarious and so funny, we still never got the postcard my mother sent from the Caribbean yet,either,and she’s been back a month now,and when I’d mentioned how I never liked this house she goes, “But you ALWAYS liked it!”( proving how she never really ever knew me, listens to me, or pays attention) and even said it was my “Dream house”, even though I never did; I liked our old house and didn’t even  want to move but we were forced to leave to flee persecution( sort of like the Holy Family fleeing to Egypt to escape King Herod) and I only like the back yard here but I’ve always hated the green shingles on the roof, the shit- colour of the veranda, the brown tiles on the front of the house, the revolting green and orange carpets upstairs, how everything’s all falling apart and how we just can’t afford to get things repaired or replaced. The way I look at it is I just settled for this house(because we had to find something  fast and it was big enough) but I’ve hated the entire 10( soon to be 11) YRS we’ve lived here.

My computer keyboard was also screwed up; I had no quotation marks or question mark and the question mark was replaced with an “e” with a French accent grave over it and it’s happened before(I have no reason why; I never did anything) so my hubby fixed it. It’s so frustrating and annoying and I’m not smart enough to know WHY it did that or how to fix it; I just know it didn’t work! We’re ordering in Chinese food for New YR’s as well and I’m looking forward to it; I LOVE Chinese food and it’s a treat we only get once a YR because it’s so expensive, and I had a dream a friend( no one I know in real life, it was just in a dream) said to her brother, “No one will EVER want YOU and it serves you RIGHT!” and he cried in front of everyone and then sadly walked  away,slowly down the street, and as I watched him walk away I thought to myself how mean it was of her,  feeling badly for him,and ,”*I* like him and want to be with him!” and I heard on the news a 13 YR old’s brain-dead following surgery complications and the hospital wants to kill her by removing life-support and the parents refuse, wanting to give her time and keep her alive( her heart’s still beating) and they went to court and the judge agreed with the hospital so they can kill her and it’s horrible! So now not only can the State take your children AWAY, now they can even KILL them,TOO,and parents are powerless to DO anything about it! Parents have NO rights, anymore, no legal protection, and no way to protect their kids or family from State intrusion!

Scary Noises.

WindowIce I didn’t sleep well: I kept getting woken up by scary noises: the fierce wind made the big Maple tree in front of my bedroom window keep hitting and scraping against the window making loud, scary noises and it got milder as well and the thick layer of ice on my bedroom windows started to melt, shrink,crack,pop, and fall off, making  scary loud noises that kept waking me up as well! When you’re asleep this is scary; it sounded like someone was trying to break into the  house thru the window and it was unnerving and unsettling(even though we have the security system and I KNEW what it was) and things that go bump in the night and keep waking you up make it hard to get a good sleep! It’s also day 8 since thousands of people have no electricity, heat, and water since the ice storm and  they say it may STILL be a few more days until it’s restored and I can’t even IMAGINE how frustrating and discouraged they must feel! Squirrels have also chewed right thru the lids of both our so-called “animal proof” animal stopper garbage cans and now the hole’s so big they can crawl right thru so we had to get new ones and to try and deter them I rubbed moth balls all across the lids(they hate the scent) to try and repel them, like I put in the garden and hope that works….

I shook my head in disbelief as well to read in “People” magazine the Top PrimeTime TV shows of the YR are all(except for 2 of them) lame or loser redneck shows: football, American Idol,Dancing With The Stars, The OT, NCIS,and The Big Bang Theory. I’ve never even HEARD of The OT, and NCIS and The Big Bang Theory are the only good ones; the others are so pathetic I’d rather stick PINS in my eyes than watch them(and it just goes to show that people have no taste, and I guess Americans love redneck football like the losers here like redneck hockey) and my hubby was actually going to buy the 15 YR old throwing KNIVES( I said what next,a shotgun,too?) like they have in the circus, which is reckless, careless,and dangerous,but I told him OVER MY DEAD BODY,  and when I said how I don’t like this house or this town my hubby sneered that I wouldn’t be happy no matter *where* we live; that complaining is my”schtick'” and just my “thing” but that’s not fair and it’s not true; I liked our old house and I WAS happy living in the city; I just complain because I’m desperately unhappy! His and my mother’s excuse for the house being a certified piece of shit and everything all falling apart is also because it’s “old” even though we DID just get all the plumbing redone just 8 YRS or so ago…so then WHY is the bath tub leaking thru the floor down to the ceiling below then? I also said I’m ashamed that we have ants and mice,too,and they said it’s “normal” and that “everyone has it” and “that’s why the stores sell mouse traps….” I’m never validated.

My mother also snickered that I “always tell everyone what to do” and my hubby says I “always nag” even though it’s my JOB; I’m the mother: “Put your dishes in the sink!” “Clean your room!” “Finish your math!” “Put your clean laundry away!” ” Pick your crap up off the floor!” “Turn the light off!” “Close the front door!” “Get dressed for church!” “Put your clothes in the laundry!” “Don’t forget your backpack!” ,and reminding them to be on time for their lessons,app’t’s etc. yet if I don’t they don’t remember and things don’t get done….and then they blame ME that they forgot(because I didn’t remind them), so I can never “win” either way! As for them ruining holiday dinners with their atrocious behaviour, our oldest said me having to endure it’s like I’m  like “the white man at a primitive tribal village of savages” and I said “Or an aristocrat stuck at a hoe-down!” and they think that I act like they’re not “high brow” enough for me(since they’re uncultured rednecks) when all I want is for them to act civilized at the table and to have proper table manners; to NOT eat with their hands or to be crude at the table….is that REALLY too much to ask or too much to expect?I’m embarrassed to have people over too, to see how the kids behave and to see how messy our house is!My hubby doesn`t care(where do you think they GOT it FROM?) and he encourages it and thinks it all just a big joke, but it`s gotten out of hand and now it`s a big problem! The kids tried to build a gingerbread house as well but the walls all kept caving in and collapsing so they just gave up and ate it. I suggested they could use caulking to do it though….well….it blends in with the white icing…

This And That.

ThisAndThat -Later today we’ll be taking down the Christmas tree (I already took down the decorations a couple of days ago,and the outdoor lights will be on until New Year’s Eve) as Monday we need to call a plumber to come take a look at the leaking bathtub that’s leaking thru the ceiling down to the living room although I have no idea how we’re going to pay for it; we don’t have the $$$, don’t have the $$$ to pay back a loan,either, and just HAD an insurance claim for the roof. I hate our house.

– The kids had 3 friends over at the same time and even with the extra people, running around and yelling I still couldn’t tell any difference! One of them also said if she yelled like that at her house she’d be grounded. She must think we’re neanderthals.

– The insurance company called and said we have to fix the broken slab on the front veranda.(Last YR they sent us a whole list of petty little demands of things we had to have repaired as well or threatened to deny us coverage,too) WTF? What does THAT have to do with *insurance* coverage? It’s NOT a safety or structural issue( it just looks crappy) and what did they DO; go snooping around our property? They’re just nit-picking and being ridiculous! I think we need to start shopping around for a new insurance company that isn’t so picky!

– A blog I read they posted a photo of their new house they’re moving in to and they RENT and their house’s even nicer than ours that we OWN! I wish we could unload this shit-hole except we can’t afford to move and besides, who’d buy this piece of shit, anyway?

– It seems that for most people they have a bad past they try to escape and the present is good and it’s their past that they want to forget and move past but for me it’s the opposite; I had a happy childhood I wish I could go back to and the present that sucks.

– Despite the shitty way my family treats me  I still try my best to avoid conflict, to diffuse the situation, to remove myself from the situation, to be kind, and to “walk on eggshells” around those that I know will “trigger” problems so at least I try and make the effort, yet it can’t all be on me; they have to still do their part,too….

– My real-life friends, Facebook friends, and blog readers all agree that no one should have to put up with the abuse my family puts me thru and that it’s not right the way they treat me( and it feels good to BE validated so I know that it’s NOT “just me” like my family always says it is) even though my hubby and mother say I have a “good” life and have no reason to complain, and that others have it much worse and I should be “grateful”.They don’t even see that there’s a problem and think I over-react and say I have it “good” when in reality nothing could be farther from the truth but they just don’t see it because they ARE the problem!